Along with the good news, there’s some bad news. When you’re part of a troubled twosome it can be difficult to see ahead to better times. And that lack of clarity can make people do some really stupid things; all in the hopes of saving their relationship.

Which is all very understandable. If you’re in that situation and need some help getting things turned around, read on for three things you definitely should NOT do to get your relationship back on track. And by the way, the baby thing? I so did not do that.

Go for a Baby

There is just so much wrong with this it’s hard to know where to start. That it even needs to be mentioned is just sad. It happens though, too often. People get scared and think that an addition to the family will bring them closer together as a couple, even if that means tricking their partner into an “accidental” pregnancy. It will do no such thing; and using an innocent to try to patch your relationship? Abhorrent!

Privacy invasion

So his cell phone is sitting right there, and he’s nowhere to be found. You’re thinking that a quick peek at his text messages and email will give you all the insight you need into fixing whatever is wrong. Right? Wrong!! You’re delusional if you think that possible law breaking, not to mention a gross invasion of privacy will help you fix your relationship. What is will get you is a break up.

Checking a lover’s email, Facebook, text messages…all straight ways to freaking yourself out. Because either you find something that is incriminating against him/her and then you can’t use it against them (illegally obtained evidence is inadmissible in court, babies) or you find nothing and you’re just a snoop. Lose/Lose.

Set up housekeeping

This one is along the same lines as having a baby. Moving in together when your relationship is in trouble is just never a good idea; rather you’re inviting trouble. It may be an understandable response, but it’s illogical.

While the two of you may labor under the illusion of romance and the temporary diversion can be a thrill, in the long term your problems will still be there. Only now, you’re sharing them with a lease or a mortgage on top of everything else. Talk about complicating things!

This post was written by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can read hundreds more helpful dating posts.